If you’re in the middle of morning sickness and overwhelming fatigue, the idea of having wild, rampant sex may be the furthest thing from your mind! On the other hand….you may find that pregnancy sex is the best you’ve ever had!
Here’s why having sex during pregnancy can be great…
For recreation – not procreation!
If you and your partner have had had to work very hard at becoming pregnant, you may relish the idea of being able to have sex for the fun of it again! Also, the fact that your body is producing up to 20 per cent more blood during this time means that every part of your body is super-sensitive, so you’re more inclined to tingle when he touches you or tickles you!
Hitting the G-spot!
The fact that your body is producing more blood is also good news on the orgasm front as orgasms are powered by blood. During pregnancy, you may find that you reach orgasm more quickly or more slowly than usual and many women find that their orgasms increase in intensity.
A new you!
During pregnancy, your breasts may feel super tingly, tender, and unusually sensitive to touch. Now, this heightened sensitivity could be a turn-off and you may not want your breasts touched at all, but alternatively, both of you may be so taken with your new boobs that he can’t keep his hands off them!
Take your positions!
During pregnancy, you may have to experiment to find the sexual position that’s best for you. During the first three months of pregnancy the foetus takes up very little space in the womb, but, once your tummy starts to grow, sex can feel a little uncomfortable if the man is on top, so it’s best to find other sexual positions.
If you do want to continue with the missionary position after the first trimester, wedge a pillow under you so you’re tilted and not lying flat on your back. Also, get your partner to support himself so that his weight is not on your abdomen.
You on top will allow you to control the depth of penetration and most of the movement. This position will also permit you to go as fast or as slow as you like.
For the most part oral sex during pregnancy is fine. Licking is fine, but your partner shouldn’t blow into your genital area as forcing or blowing air into the vagina could cause an air embolism (a bubble of air that gets into your blood circulation). This is a very rare occurrence, but it could be life-threatening for you or your baby.
Building a closer connection
There’s no doubt that there will be some degree of change in your sex life during pregnancy. The secret to ensuring that it’s relaxing and pleasurable for both of you is open communication.
Talking to each other about ways of satisfying your need for intimacy, such as kissing or petting, will also ensure that you can strengthen the bond between you and eventually make sex even more passionate and more meaningful than ever!
(Just FYI – you don’t need to worry about your baby being ‘hit’ by the penis during sex. For a start, the foetus lies safely in the womb and occasional movement, contact or orgasms cannot cause it harm. During orgasm, the womb will contract more than usual, but not to the same extent as it does just before delivery. When you have an orgasm, your baby is unaware of what you are doing, but it will experience your hormone rush, so orgasms are generally very good for both of you!)